FAQs
#1: Who is this M3 Program for? II like to say it is for people who have already been to counseling. It is for people who are currently in counseling. It is for people who have never been to counseling. And maybe, even hopefully, it is for people who would never go to counseling. It’s a custom program so a lot of it will be new no matter what your experience. Certainly, the main principle is something I’m not hearing anyone teach. But I also think it’s a great way to teach some helpful concepts to someone who doesn’t ever plan to sit down for one on one counseling.
#2: What is the M3 Program? M3 stands for Motive Matters Most. It is the idea that “why” we do matters more than “what” we do. That’s not to say that what we do does not matter. This is the result of decades of study, research, and practice. And somehow, we’ve stumbled into something incredibly effective. What I’ve been wanting to build is something wholistic. Which yeah means wholistic as in helping you become fully integrated, but also means wholistic as in a multi-part that works together to create more than the parts. So, by curating specific content and interpreting it through my unique lens of training, practice, and experience; along with live coaching opportunities and maybe most importantly, by doing this in community with others, we have the pieces to make an incredibly effective change program.
#3: Is this just another course? Certainly not. What we call M3 Basic is the core foundation. There is a pre-course and there will be a lot of advanced content. But it’s not really about content. It’s a program which combines content with live coaching and a community of people just like you sharing wins and losses and supported by our Black Belt Mentors who are also just real people who’ve been doing it a little longer and want to keep learning by giving back.
#4: How does the M3 Program work? First step, make sure we have your email. From there you’ll be kept in the loop. There will be things to do before you attend your M3 Basic course. Then you’ll attend your M3 Basic Course which is hopefully easy to digest. 4 “short” videos each week and a group coaching call with community support. Then you are turned loose into the M3 Advanced Community. Even though you can be exposed to the basics in a couple of months I really want you to realize that it takes time to fully understand and apply so be thinking about a 2-year commitment to maximize your return. And then be prepared to be invited to give back with a 2-year term as a Black Belt (and gain access to some new privileges).
#5: Is this for couples? Yes and No. For sure this would be a great thing for a couple to do together. We try to break everything into one of three phases: 1) Discover 2) Inner 3) Outer. The last one is for sure about how we relate to other people. The first two are about learning how to get into a good place so that we really understand why we are relating to other people in the first place. So good for individuals and couples.
#6: What if my partner won’t do this with me? One person can change enough to be at peace even if the other person does not change at all. Now you may be saying “but I don’t want to be at peace with … (fill in the blank)". For now, let me just say “don’t be so sure about that”. The point is you have the power until you give it away (which is most of the time). This is about taking personal responsibility for how we feel when certain things happen and how we can learn to have a different experience in those same situations. After that we think/talk about what to do. Because when we think about what to do from an off center place our thinking is also off center and produces off center results.
#7: What if I want to share this with somebody? Awesome! We’d love that. I would say don’t try and teach it. Just forward a copy of your weekly To-Do list or something you see on our socials. Send a link to a video you like. Feel free to share your experience but not through a lens of what you think they should do. If it works for you great. If they’re not ready - it’s all about nonjudgment, which some have called true love.
#8: Is this a counseling program? No. And I think this is important. Counseling is counseling. Counseling is really about sitting one on one with someone who is trained to create space and hear you and guide you to the things they think will help set you free. I heard Taylor Tomlinson say “People are scared to go to therapy because they think it's someone sitting in a chair going, you suck. But it's not. It's you in a chair going, I suck.” This is content created by a counselor, curated from some of the best counselors, and taught to you as content, to empower you to do as much as you can on your own. But it’s not counseling. Although I’d love to see everybody get at least some counseling. In the case of working with me it is a required pre-requisite. When we have live calls, we’re going to call that Coaching. As in coaching you in this specific model.
#9: How much does the M3 program cost? The first time we offer M3 it is currently planned for $97 per month and will increase each time offering after that. Most likely by $10 a month. That’s the equivalent of about 15 minutes with a really good therapist.
#10: If I’m doing this with a spouse do we each need our own membership or can we share? Yes, you need your own. No, you cannot share. We need a way for each participant to have their own access so we know who has completed which courses. It’s also important that each person can participate in coaching calls and online community as themselves.
#11: What is this Rate Lock? The next M3 Basic Course start date will open the window for the Advanced Community and lock your monthly program cost for as long as you are in the program. That means the next course is always going to be the least expensive option and will lock you in. Monthly rates will go up each time the course is offered.
#12: Who/What are Black Belts and who can become one? Black Belts are not counselors or teachers. They are just regular people like you who have spent a minimum of 2 years with Doc Prosen either one on one or in the M3 program or some combination of both. Think of them like sponsors in AA. They are making themselves available to help you grasp and practice the concepts which also helps them master the concepts better so it’s a win/win. They also have special access and their own coaching call so they can serve as a first line of defensive if something put out is too confusing.